I don’t normally post text posts on here, so many of my followers (unless you happen to know me in real life) don’t know an awful lot about me. Heck, you probably don’t even know my name. (It’s Jenny by the way…) But here goes. All the text you’d ever want.
As many of you may know/assume/suspect(?), i happen to be gay. (Great! No, this isn’t a coming out post…) Fortunately i work in an industry that is generally super excepting of almost everyone, so it’s really not a big deal.
The only problem is that i’m almost always read as ‘straight’, by both girls and guys. Which is often useful, but i have many problems with it. Mainly because it’s just not who i am. Being a lesbian is such a big part of my identity, and it’s not necessarily great when people just don’t get that. And it’s not always particularly convenient to have to continuously correct people on that. Tbh i don’t even get why i automatically have to ‘default’ to straight. But that’s another story…
Part of my industry (technical theatre), and general job setup, is that i happen to work for many different venues. Now, there’s some places i’ve worked at for like, 3 years, and assumed i was straight all along. Now, it’s not particularly convenient after all that time to somehow drop it into conversation. Most people think that you’re joking. It’s all a little frustrating, to be honest.
So then we come to this weekend, where i happen to be in a bar (just you’re average bar, before you ask) with some of the Company from Current-Tour-In-Venue. Just having some general conversation, I was somewhat amazed/surprised/delighted(?) to be instantly read as gay, by someone who i’ve only known for all of 2 days. This happened to be in the form of “So where’s the gay scene round here?” (If you were wondering…)
I’m sure that this isn’t the first time, but i dunno, it was just so nice for someone to greet me, work on the same production for all of 4 performances, go through the usual conversation, and then be able to successfully read who i was. All with no prompting from me.
More of this please. Ta.